A new decade is upon us! 2020 is here, can you believe it? Like many people, we have taken this new decade as an opportunity to focus our energies and realign with our goals and priorities.
We aren’t making New Year’s Resolutions. Resolutions are binary, and are usually forgotten by the time February rolls around. Science tells us that a mere 8% of people actually achieve their New Year’s Resolutions. Does that mean 92% of us are failures? No. We need to reframe how we define success so we can make positive and long-lasting changes in our lives. So how do we do it?
We do it by being mindful with the little decisions we make every single day, focusing on the choices in front of us, and making the right choice in that moment, even when our external environment tests our patience and determination. The real measurement of success is the culmination of all the little decisions we make, day in and day out. We get so caught up in making radical changes on January 1st, where we will completely rehaul our entire lives in an aim to become better people. We over focus on the end result and forget that each day is our chance to start new. Every morning that we wake up, we have an opportunity to be better than the day before. But how many times do we have a day where we have a misstep, then either slip into old habits, or choose to no longer work toward our goals? This occurs because we overwhelm ourselves with too much at once, too vague of an idea, too lofty of a goal, too loose of a plan. We must remember the old maxim, - “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”.
Each day is a chance to create your own masterpiece. Small changes every day over a long period of time lead to BIG changes. We change our lives by the small, deliberate choices we make every single day. However, we tend to get distracted by things that are out of our control. We cannot change what happened yesterday. We cannot control what will happen tomorrow. But we can control our actions today. And our actions today will have a great influence on what happens tomorrow. If we bog ourselves down with what we can’t control, we lose sight of what we can control. And what is always completely within our control is our attitude and our effort.
It may be a cliché, but we must reframe our minds to focus on the journey, not just the destination. What counts is the total effort you put in every day to reach your goals. Each day, we try to do just a little bit better than we did the day before. And that is where we find true and lasting growth.
We will make mistakes. Perfection is not our aim. That’s the beauty of resetting every morning to focus on the tasks at hand today. Each day is a new opportunity to be better. It’s going to be hard. You will fail. For some of us, we will fail often. But that’s ok. There is a big difference between failing and failure. Each day is your chance to start new. You don’t have to wait for the new year to start again. What’s holding you back from starting right now?